I have been inactive for a couple of days but I am thinking of a good subject to write about,so I haven’t broken my new year resolution of finally writing my own blog without giving up like the usual. I hope you are all enjoying your week! In Lebanon it’s freezing!!!!! I am hugging the fireplace and drinking lava to stay warm 😀 I will be finishing something soon, I hope you will all like it ^_^
Today is New Year’s Eve. Just like every year, we have a list of wishes and resolutions for the new year. Our wishes might have changed from the year before, but somehow, these resolutions will meet the same fate as the ones we did a year ago: after the first week of January, most of our resolutions fly, we are stuck in the same old job, our situation remains the same, and well, it seems that the only commitment we are actually doing is the “empty the fridge” commitment. Or maybe that’s just me?
Well the essence of my idea is that we lose too fast our energy and our commitment. And as I mentioned in my earlier post, it’s a problem I suffer from as well. It’s why I decided to find ways that could help us stay committed to a certain goal.
I have some rare moments where I committed and I actually finished it, so I am thinking of the elements that made those commitments different than the rest, the elements that turned my words into long term actions.
The best ways for me were mostly based on 3 things:
1- using my aggressive attitude towards things or people I dislike to focus on getting things done,
2 – using my intense feelings towards people to reach my goals ,
3- using the green power.
It seems pretty simple, most people I bet do so, but I still wish to elaborate my idea a bit more, perhaps it would give you new ideas.
First way as I already said is to use all this negative energy to get things done. The most common example is getting things done to piss off others. For example, I worked on my physics and math skills just so no person I dislike can say that I didn’t do well at certain subjects, therefore I was working harder just to avoid giving them the satisfaction of knowing about a weakness I have in my school record. Another time, it was when I was learning how to drive. Someone I definitely dislike said that I wouldn’t be able to get the hang of it, and I decided to face my fear of driving just to rub it in the face of this person. Which I did by the way!
The second way is using intense feelings towards others. I know usually people say do this or that for your own good, but we somehow don’t find that putting ourselves as the main winner if we reach our goal doesn’t really encourage us. We somehow feel we can manage without reaching that goal, so it doesn’t matter if we do it or not. But once we link it to others, to those that we love, it suddenly becomes more important to be done. Just when a kid is drawing and he can’t seem to get it right, he wants to stop doing it. But then his mother is asking him what he is doing, he shows her, she encourages him, and he just wants to finish it so his mother would be proud. Maybe because the people we love are our priority, not ourselves, we should use this to become better people, to achieve more.
The third way is using financial stimulation. Who doesn’t need a little extra cash now and then? Well what if we find a way to use this little stimulation to do things ourselves? Let’s say you want to start training at the gym. What is the best way for you to feel inspired? For me, since I am always on a tight budget, I used to go to the gym because I had already paid the membership and I didn’t want to be spending my money without using it. And well having my sisters ask me if I wish to go with them and urging me to do so helped too. So there is a 2-steps action to do: register in a gym and pay it from your own money, not using that gift card you got, so you know you will be losing if you don’t go, and have someone encourage you to go. Why not a gym buddy? And if that’s not enough, make yourself go because you might lose more. Perhaps making a deal with your friend that every time you don’t go to the gym you should pay them like 20$ will make you realize that you don’t have a wallet that can afford a loss of 20$ daily, making you drag yourself to the gym.
These 3 ideas are just one person’s way. You can make up your own. See what gives you energy and use it. 2015 is just a few hours ahead, don’t waste it like you did with 2014 and the years before, it’s a whole new chance given to you by the universe! With that, I just need to remind you that I am the biggest slacker in this universe, and if I am able to commit from time to time, then you definitely can!
I wish you all a happy new year, and if anyone who read this found it useful, let me know!
Hopeful Fatalist 